
There are several areas in my life that I excel in. Writing? Check. Marketing? Check. Eating? Double check.
But for a while - okay, make that a
long time - I have shunned the idea of dating (blame it on my last ex). Too messy/complicated/exhausting; the list goes on. But to be quite honest, I never had to endure the whole boy-meets-girl/gee-I wonder-if-he's-gonna-like-me scenario. Like my cable-knit slippers, suitors were always at my feet, waiting in the wings for me to detach from whatever relationship I happened to be in (which all seemed to have three-year expiration dates stamped on their existence).
But a funny thing happened when I intentionally took myself "off the market", as I searched inward to figure out why I keep subscribing to the insanity channel (doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results). I became The Invisible Girl, whose social butterfly wings got clipped in the process.
But it's summer, dammit, and I'm feeling brave enough to stick my toe into the dating pool. And to ensure I don't drown in a cesspool, I'm enlisting the help from one of the best: Simone Grant -aka
SINgle GIRL, is a writer, trainer, consultant and active dater, who blogs for
Sex, Lies and Dating in the City. Following are her thoughts, from one single girl to another:
TWHS: Give me one good reason why I should get back into the dating scene.
SINgle GIRL: I don’t know that you “should”. You should if you’re interested in male companionship or a relationship with a guy. But I don’t think there is anything wrong with being single and not dating.
TWHS: I have been accused of wearing my single status like a "banner" (I should mention by a very frustrated dude who had NO chance of picking the lock of my chastity belt!). Why do so many feel that once they find out you're single, you are automatically in need of being changed, or hooked up?
SINgle GIRL: I have two answers to that: 1) Boys and girls grow up and get married. That’s the way it’s supposed to work. Those are the unwritten rules. And our society has always looked unkindly to those who don’t follow the rules. Single adults represent a challenge to traditional values. 2) Married people want us to be saddled with the same responsibilities that they have. They’re threatened by our freedom.
Read the entire interview
here.